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Dialoguing:

Get Immediate Answers from Anyone You Want - Living, Dead, or Imagined

We're all wiser than we think. But accessing our Inner Wisdom is not a snap-your-fingers done deal. One way to work through an issue or relieve stress about a person or event in our lives is to have an imaginary conversation in writing, in our private diaries or journals. The results can often be hair-raisingly wise.

The technique is this:

Write the conversation from your mind, quickly - without too much thinking. The format is a screenplay or theatrical play. And you talk to anyone or any thing that represents the wisdom you seek. You can even "talk" to someone you're currently having problems with, to get their side of the story.

For instance - Tammi suddenly developed insomnia. She had never had this problem before, and with 3 kids and a job, she couldn't afford to lie in her bed and stare at the ceiling all night. An excerpt from her journal goes like this:

(continued below)

Me: Why are you keeping me up all night? I have to get some rest!
Insomnia: I'm not the one keeping you up.
Me: Of course you are. Now spill. What's going on?
Insomnia: I'm actually helping you. If you really wanted to sleep, I'd be bothering someone else.
Me: What do you mean?
Insomnia: I mean. You're keeping yourself awake on purpose.
Me: I am not!
dialoguing Insomnia: Are too.
Me: Why would I sabotage myself like that? My alarm rings at 6:30 every morning. I'm feeling like roadkill.
Insomnia: You don't want to sleep because Kevin* was sick last month and it scared you.
Me: Don't remind me. It totally scared me. His fever rose to 103.4 in the middle of the night, and I brought him to the E.R. It was beyond terrifying.
Insomnia: Don't you get it? You're afraid to sleep in case Kevin or one of the other kids should get sick again. The incident shook you to the core.
Me: But that night, I heard Kevin crying and I woke up immediately. I leaped out of bed. Almost like I had a sixth sense or something.
Insomnia: So you see?
Me: Maybe. Not sure.
Insomnia: You now know - from experience - that if your children need you, you'll wake up in an instant. You got Kevin to the hospital in minutes, didn't you?
Me: Yeah, I did. So ... you're saying the kids will still be safe if I actually sleep at night?
Insomnia: Absolutely.

*Kevin is Tammi's 2-year old

The Heart of the Problem is the Way Out Of It

The night after Tammi wrote this journal entry, she slept well. For the first time in weeks.

You can dialogue with a deceased relative to straighten out issues that were never resolved and are still distressing to you; you can dialogue with your body about weight gain; you can dialogue with your heart about a man who's catching your attention. There are no limits.

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